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The lady in man's collective
To appear in man's collective - dreamboat of many ladies. In this occasion the weak half of mankind has created iridescent and at times rather inconsistent illusions. We suggest to dispel them for the sake of your blessing.
Illusion the first: real men know, that the woman - a being weak. Therefore they in every possible way подстраховывают ladies on "abrupt turns", offer in time a hand and protect from furious attacks of the chief. Actually, as soon as you have crossed a threshold of "a man's flower bed", for the new employees you have died as a weak being. Nobody begins to forgive you misses, to wipe tears, nobody will take into consideration, that you have critical days and there are headaches. Can and answer roughly, and make the incorrect remark.
Also has put at all that we "great and mighty" are tactless and твердолобы, and it is simple such are game rules in a man's command: rigid struggle where there are winners both won, and an indispensable prize - money or success.
Therefore the woman in man's collective - not a weak link. She is a player equal in rights. And what happens with the young woman who has appeared on "battlefield" and has not considered this rule? She will lose.
Way of a survival: to become the command player
Try to play in football. Will comprehend work psychology in a man's command much easier when you will know what its "delights" feels like. Learn, for example, what for it is necessary to close weak spots, learn to move, think, count quickly a situation on some courses forward and thus always to remember that it is necessary to score a goal.
Try to master chess. Find out, how figures go, and thus try to understand, what of them in man's collective you are. To you becomes abundantly clear, that it is not pleasant to colleagues, if "elephant" makes "knight's move", and "pawn" strives to turn to "queen" at once.
Illusion the second: the lady always is in man's collective under steadfast attention. Beautiful dresses, refined ornaments, a stylish make-up and thin spirits will provide to the young lady general admiration and prompt promotion.
Make vain attempts - the man's brotherhood is so keen on work, that hardly will pay attention, than from you smells: "Chanel № 5" or "Threefold" cologne. Well they do not notice trifles - in it and feature of man's psychology consists. To sink in details - female "privilege".
By the way, psychologists have noticed: constantly being in the attention centre, the young lady terribly worries concerning the appearance - and receives stress. As to clothes any jackets with ruches, dresses, not speaking about miniskirts, influence "subcortex" of colleagues of an opposite sex раздражающе. If all men in suits, and the lady - in a dress it will look the stranger on them "a life holiday". Though receive the invitation to a coffee cup can...
Way of a survival: correctly to put on
Try to play just once hockey, having dressed up in a ballet pack and pointes. Represent reaction? Approximately as ruches and laces operate on employees - of men. That is why at lady's wear there should be by all means any detail of man's "uniform". Not necessarily trousers. Let it will be the jacket, a waistcoat or a scarf simulating a tie.
Illusion the third: costs to the young woman as it is necessary to coquet, and all at once will rush to look after it, and someone, it is possible (you never can tell?), will make a proposal of marriage.
To search for the beloved on a workplace - business unpromising. The representatives of the man's brotherhood who have run wild without a female society, охмурить and захомутать as it is difficult, as inhabitants of a man's monastery. The solution of this puzzle is simple; on service of men as the people aimed at success, that first of all excites, how much the lady will be useful in work, and then (from 13.00 till or after 18.00) - its other qualities. If the lady is able to shoot only eyes to it will appropriate a title "the Ms... Chicken brains", and then and at all will turn out supposedly "you simply superfluous detail..."
Way of a survival: to be докой in the business
Instead of shooting by eyes is advised to master another "sports kind" - study. To begin with will not prevent to deepen knowledge on a speciality. Even the most ill-natured man's collective will admire the professional of any floor. However, there is shorter way to their "heart"...
Descend on any sports meet and observe behaviour of the champion. You will understand, how it forces to believe associates in the invincibility. Pretending as if is the superman, the owner of all awards of the world and "the candidate околовсяческих sciences", he is so convinced of the genius, that... Really wins. Take this remarkable way on arms and you.
Illusion the fourth: to the lady who has got to man's collective, it is better to forget at once that she is a woman. Rigid fight-woman - here it is unique a true role which will allow to contend forces with these awful men.
You, of course, can adopt their style of behaviour, pump up muscles, shortly have hair cut and even to learn to speak a bass, nevertheless "" in a man's brotherhood does not become. Simply men somewhere at subconscious level feel: rigid aggressive style for the lady - the stranger. A bright example "the muzhik in a skirt" which has promoted, using exclusively power methods, - Lyudmila Prokofevna from "the Office novel".
You at all do not represent, how many energy takes away man's style of behaviour from women! That is why "iron ladies" pay off for the мужеподобность with the loosened nerves, early ageing, an uncooperative altitude (from men - especially!) and loneliness.
Way of a survival: to be great "actress" and to use personal charm
Except ability to work in a command, the woman should not forget about the, about the female... The Nature has awarded ladies with one quality which will allow to lay any harmful individual of man's collective on shovels. The matter is that women are able to let out certain fluids it is similar to the ultrasounds published by butterflies. This "substance" is called charm. Anybody from its men does not see, but nobody in forces to resist to it.
Under forecasts of futurologists, in the man's world of the XXI-st century "woman-chameleon" who is able to be switched quickly from one role to another will survive. Depending on a situation it is possible to play that the fighting girlfriend the wise woman and to be ready when it is necessary, to turn in "it". And what role in what case to "put on", will prompt your sixth feeling.
Illusion the fifth. With men it is easy to find common language and to make friends. Costs "in roles" to tell to the colleague, what reptile - the chief to complain of a lack of money and, looking in eyes, in a pathetic voice to take an interest, as he has spent yesterday evening, and that will for ever like liking to the lady.
First, unlike women who realise itself in relations, men ego-trip in work, therefore are not too torn to be on friendly terms. And secondly, they very much are afraid of emotions which are indispensable attribute of female friendship and conversations. Simply in their environment there is such stereotype: if the lady roughly expresses grief or disappointment (it is unimportant that, the main thing - shows emotions!), means, it... The hysteric woman. They do not know, that the riches of the emotional world of women are caused physiologically: at them the right hemisphere of a brain which is responsible for emotions, and at men - left, "logic" is more developed. And when the woman shares the thoughts, the man hears one: "Help to solve my problem". Therefore to ability talently to hide the emotions to us does not prevent to learn at our colleagues of an opposite sex.
Way of a survival: show less than rough emotions and do not load the interlocutor with the problems
The excellent "training apparatus" which is "pumping up" calmness, card play. Poker, preference, "fool" - a remarkable way to develop logic abilities, very valued in the man's world, and the best means of "face-control". Rules are that: if the opponent, looking at a physiognomy визави, can define, what cards at it, that has lost.
There is a female reading matter, and is - man's. There are themes which, as a rule, adore women and hate men. Communicating with colleagues of a male, it is not necessary:
To tell about preparation of tasty and healthy food;
To recite in persons a pedagogical poem about the offsprings;
To gossip about secrets of "the Madrid court yard", assorting behaviour and personal qualities of separate employees;
To quote the medical encyclopaedia;
To ask on their private life, such remarkable people.
Illusion the sixth. If on the lady the colleague has raised the voice, to be silent it is impossible is strikes at its female rights. It is necessary to pay back with the same coin or... To burst into tears. Let he suffers a remorse.
Unwritten rule of man's collective: if you "have got", повергли in a panic - you have lost. For certain you not begin to take to heart "insulting words" and to pay in the same coin if learn, that your colleague вызверился not personally on you, Таню, Masha or Люду, and for your roles - the secretary, the manager or the bookkeeper. By the way, psychologists have found out one strangeness inherent in female psychology: young ladies are improbably vindictive - to the detriment. While men, "having fought" and having stated all each other in the person, have shaken hands and have peacefully dispersed, young women continue to be angry, suffer and one thousand times to scroll in a head a negative episode. And absolutely in vain is only kills nervous cages and harms to reputation.
Way of a survival - to make sober the rude fellow "in a scientifically way"
Rule N 1: not to leave at all itself - a scent on adrenaline at men is not worse at all, than at dogs: not clearly, in what business but to bite it would be desirable.
Rule N 2: to answer with quiet tone - on contrast with terrible "notes" of men it operates on them отрезвляюще.
Rule N 3: to parry very silently. As the hearing at them is worse, than at women, the shouter should "lower loudness".
Rule N 4: to hold pauses. Strangely enough, this reception allows the man to feel, that the lady at present feels, and to "be switched".
Illusion the seventh. Men - the beings which absolutely not have been not adapted by a life. Therefore, having got to man's collective, the woman should become them native mother and the small mistress of the big house.
Certainly, to water flowers, to treat with a house pie and to wash for employees of a cup - business good, and the lady for it will thank, probably, even will praise. But do not give in on provocation: at heart men are assured, that, showing the care, the lady as though offers an exchange: I to you - leaving, you to me - the mighty shoulders behind which I will hide from responsibility. Therefore economic women in man's collectives, as a rule, leave on supporting parts, charging to them boring monotonous work. Or will send in secretaries that on the lawful bases cooked all tasty coffee.
Way of a survival: to take courage and direct a parent instinct to other channel
As the mistress and careful mother - not the most popular roles among man's brotherhood, direct the parent instinct to other channel. Take care of well-being of other "children" - own creativity and realisation of the talents.
Risk to leave because of a man's shoulder and to take part in a boxing duel... Sitting at the TV. Try to present, as fight if one player endlessly hid for a back of another would develop. For certain you will come to conclusion, that to the woman who wishes to promote in man's collective, it is necessary to become more courageous, and sometimes even to run risks.
Illusion the eighth. As men - people of business, they only will be grateful for councils and valuable instructions which the competent lady will be generous to distribute to the right and on the left.
"You know, Вася, I on your place this gear..." "I Wish to give to you, Саша, one council: an electrodrill..." "Excuse, Сережа, but to solder it is necessary in another way. Give, I will show..." The woman aspires to advise, direct, save awkward men from errors. So at it all is realised the same parent instinct. But for some reason Вася, Саша and Сережа in the answer are irritated. A black ingratitude? Yes is not present, simply they have heard: "Forgive, children, but you are morons and line be not able to do". Any council which is given by the colleague of a female (whatever clever it was), is perceived by man's collective as criticism. From here sharp aversion of "well-wisher". Knowingly after all men have thought up a rule: "Listen to the woman and make on the contrary".
Way of a survival: not to criticise, and to praise
- You "have already mastered" set of kinds of sports and should notice, that the purpose of any player - to receive a prize. And if your purpose - to prove, that you are the pro, and to force men to listen to your councils recollect that in each man there is something from a peacock. Therefore do by it compliments and praise them, praise. It is remarkable psychological support for any man - it at once "will dismiss a tail" and... Itself will come running to you to consult.
Illusion the ninth (last). In man's collective it is difficult to get accustomed. These beeches and squabblers continually aim to pin up, humiliate, offend, shout, curse and to let know, that the woman - a being of the second grade.
Actually these beeches can appear nice children. Here one history from a life.
... In one harmful-prezlovrednom man's-premuzhskom collective there was a charming lady. The man's brotherhood was terribly dissatisfied: a pier, this prim young lady and work will fill up, and so on... And this lady take and prove, that it the superprofessional, has the iron logic and Spartan endurance. Contrary to expectations of colleagues it did not arrange "tsyganochku - with an exit" and "did not knock". And what miracles of intuition showed! Yes, we have forgotten to name this correct lady. Her called Настя Kamensk. To kindle hearts of severe colleagues, it needed to give all the best on all of 200 percent in each of... надцати series. You can be necessary much less time if you use the main way of a survival: to be the normal person, the game rule nobility in man's collective and to carry out them, remaining thus the woman.
Man's brotherhood madly irritates, when the woman...
Loudly modulatingly laughs;
Too much stirs;
Throws reproachful sights on easy небритость;
Long deliberates before to make the decision;
Parades the errors;
Explains the failures in career by man's chauvinism.
By man's brotherhood it is welcomed:
Rivalry sound mind;
Recognition of their genius;
Risk ("Noble business!");
Boundless self-trust;
The initiative.