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Career crisis

To all of us familiarly that depressing condition with which sometimes you wake up on Monday morning.<Опять понедельник, опять вставать, а впереди целая неделя. Как я все это ненавижу! И как я дошел до такой жизни?> And all the matter is that we do not love that work on which are compelled to go every day. So, when it has begun?

Crisis approach
Career crisis comes when your career aspirations more you do not inspire, mismatch your requirements, do not fill a life with the purpose. Those purposes to which you so actively aspired about five years ago, have thawn as last year's snow. Whether you understand or not, that are unhappy, but, alas, your vital values and dreams have wallowed in a dust of daily labour cares.
It can gradually come or unexpectedly
Sometimes crisis comes in one day. Perhaps you have not promoted, on which counted, can, you the death close has struck, and can, you have simply fallen in love. Happens, that the policy of your company has changed and it seems to you, that your work became not so is important. Global events can be reflected in your vital priorities and cause career crisis.
Sometimes you gradually reach this condition, and those purposes which seemed you significant earlier, lose in due course the secret sense. You understand, that plans for a life, generated at early youthful age at all do not correspond to aspirations of the mature person.

Signs of career crisis
 You dislike the colleagues or the chief though found their quite lovely earlier
 You would not like to rise and go every day for work at all
 To you it is boring, you are disseminated, there are no stimulus, all starts to anger and irritate you
 It seems to you, that you are broken off between two lives
 To you sees, that at all around everything is all right and one you such unfortunate
 You on what do not have forces, and like you are necessary to nobody and to you anybody does not have affairs
 You cannot accept serious vital decisions in any way, asking council at all and everyone
 You eternally regret for the decisions accepted in the past
 You are angry with people because of whom as it seems to you, you have appeared in present position

Do not ignore the feelings
If to you it is bad, if it seems to you, that there has come career crisis, most likely, so it and is, and it is not necessary to try to hide from it further away. The longer you will continue to drag such life, the worse for you.
Understand itself and will solve a problem.

With what to begin
To begin with rummage in itself and the feelings. Think, that you has finished to such life, when and as it has occurred. Think, whether you can improve a situation, working in the present company, or it is better to you to replace collective, atmosphere, activity. Wonder, THAT you want, in what the purpose of your life, that for you is important also what your values for today.
No. You need to take not simply a pencil and a paper and to paint all on points - the serious analysis on which weeks or even will leave months is necessary. Some people so deeply jam in crisis that do not find in itself any forces on resolute action - whether it be promotion or transition in other company. Sometimes it is necessary to be able to take a detached view of the life to see, in what a problem root.
What prevents to move to us from a place?
As a rule, feeling of responsibility before a family and fear to seem in someone's eyes the weak person
Yes, almost each of us has someone who depends on us and our salary. It can be parents, children, partners in life. And many cling to these justifications, stopping themselves from resolute actions.<Я не имею права все бросить - на моих плечах пожилые родители>.<Я не могу позволить себе уйти с этого места. Что дети подумают о своем отце?><Допустим, я уйду с этой работы, попытав счастья где-то еще. Но вдруг у меня не получится? Я не хочу выглядеть в глазах родных неудачником>. All these justifications prevent to undertake seriously to us the problem decision.
To shift fault for the position on someone - is even worse. You start to regret yourselves, taking away at yourselves superfluous pleasure and forces. As a result it seems to you, that you the most unfortunate person in the world and anything any more will not help you.<Ах, если бы мои родители не заставили меня пойти в медицинский, сейчас я был бы преуспевающим адвокатом. Это все они виноваты>, - here psychology of such thinking. It is necessary to disappoint you. You the adult person and you bear responsibility for the life. Yes, probably your parents have forced you to be engaged in unloved business, but it was for a long time. You have grown, have taken place, you can realise the true desires and find in yourselves forces all to change. After all it is possible to begin with the small. But if you do nothing to carry out the true dreams, you are guilty in it and only you.
Also remember, your family wishes to see you happy. If work does not bring pleasure to you, it to be reflected and in your family and relatives. They will feel, that a life to you not in pleasure though, perhaps, you even do not speak anything to them, do not complain. Your sacred duty - to resolve career crisis and to live according to the true desires. All from it only will win, and the family necessarily will understand you and will support.
Do not hide a head in sand, being closed from possible ways of an exit As they say, the known trouble is better than expected uncertainty. Differently, we can not like our work, but we know it, we have got used to it and simply we are afraid to change something. In this fear also there is your true weakness. It is very sad. Prospect to spend still ten years, being engaged in hated business where it is more terrible than any changes!
It seems to us, that we know the truth, but it not so
The people who are in a condition of career crisis, possess unique ability in advance to know and expect all. On all failures at them the ready answer-explanation why they cannot change the life. Something will seem to them, and here they already build the whole scientific theory.<Я не могу заняться издательской деятельностью, потому что там большая конкуренция>.<Я больше никогда не смогу зарабатывать столько денег>.<Уверен, моя семья не одобрит, если я уйду в другую сферу>. But if you at all have not asked them, if you have not spent the serious analysis of the market as you can be confident - after all your career decision is based on frequently prejudiced assumptions. Be fair with yourself and if you are not confident for hundred percent, learn the truth. And at all do not cover thus your laziness.
Mistrust to itself and the feelings
The people who are in career crisis, like to address for council to associates, but absolutely forget to listen to itself. Only you can know, that actually it is necessary for you. Ask council, but make the decision independently. Follow to call of the heart.
The overestimated self-conceit
One more favourite excuse:<Я не могу бросить эту работу. Что они будут без меня делать? Компания рухнет!> And at what here they if because of it you go counter to own desires and the purposes. Inhale more deeply, be typed determination and make this responsible step. Irreplaceable people are not present. The main thing, do not lose sense of humour.
Lay down the aims and search for decisions
As soon as you realise, that you want, think over possible ways of achievement of the purpose and start business.
Will get support
Your family, friends, colleagues - an excellent source of the information and ideas if you trust in their judgement and ask council. Probably, they will prompt you the original decision. Collect as much as possible opinions, but do not allow them to muffle the found understanding of.
Live completely
As it is sad, but many and bear the labour service, never having tested happiness of career achievements. Here it retiring, got tired and unfortunate, and soon all the forgotten person: a farewell dinner, a gift for memory, hand shakes of colleagues. And what remains in memory? - Thirty years of daily campaigns for aimless work. The professional life should not end so. You should retire happy, with feeling of the executed debt, seeing the reached results and feeling the contribution. Therefore, having distinguished career crisis, make the correct decision in time.
You the future depends only on you so for that you wait?!
Probably you now not on the best work, but at you are experience and necessary skills which will help you to be put in motion and to find yourselves. As soon as you will understand, that inactivity in what will not result, and that all depends only on you, consider, that you already on a true way. Take for a basis the new comprehension of a life and build on it the happy future.