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Convincing speech - pledge of successful career

In any case each person has such condition as if it "has closed". So there is even with people, for which a dialogue with public — a trade. Well-known all the humorist somehow left under bravura music on a scene and … has forgotten the text. The monologue with which it repeatedly acted, has simply taken off at it from a head. It is good, that in few seconds the actor has oriented and шуточно retired for side scenes that to it have prompted the first line. For certain you remember a case from a classical film with the well-known lyrical tenor Lensky — Aleynikov when, having seen the beloved with another, he could not sing, and the prompter prompted all to it loud whisper: «Where? Where? Where you have left?»

What to speak about those who tests excitement before performance. Be you at all the actor, and, for example, the teacher of elementary grades. Easy excitement it is normal, and if you strongly are nervous and cannot calm down in any way? Even worse if before performance you are quiet, and during the most responsible moment have got agitated so, that two words cannot connect. Only also it is audible: «Эээ, ммм». How to struggle with this misfortune? How to make, that on production meetings to your opinion listened how to lift an urgent problem, not to offend present, how to give the report or to hold presentation that all have gasped?

To prove and the oratory on work, begin with people closer to you. Who as not they, will understand you in case of a discomfiture or misunderstanding. Try to act in a narrow family circle. In advance think over, that you will tell. Порепетируйте with itself. Act on birthday, anniversary, wedding, other family celebration, then — already in less familiar company. When you will feel force — dare on a production meeting, летучке, a seminar, conference.

Necessarily think over the speech. If are lost — write down or learn by heart. The Foreign language comprehend by means of obligatory learning of phrases and texts which then as though emerge in the course of dialogue. In eloquence training it is possible to apply the same method. The senior teacher of one university always answered too clever questions of students with the same learnt by heart phrase: «Understand, the young man, in our century of intellectual progress when each individual is based on criteria of utopian subjectivity, the false compromise of consciousness in hundred times is more important than naturalistic tendencies, its causing».

Well jokes, the description of amusing, paradoxical cases, citing of the great help. Remember that was astonishing for you, genuine interest or laughter. The more will be such histories in a coin box of your knowledge, especially interesting interlocutor and the orator you become, the it will be easier to communicate to you. «Обкатайте» histories, try to insert them to a place. One intelligent chief has interrupted rough speech of the, to put it mildly, the crude subordinate, not raising the tone, one only with a phrase: «Let's not transform our conversation into malignant gossip school».

Well to have some ready phrases for all occasions. Learn to greet accurately and confidently, necessarily smiling. After all from it there is a benevolent atmosphere which will not allow to you to be clamped. Open an unfamiliar door, greet and smile. Implied sense should be such: «Here it I, has come! I am glad to you». Even if you were mistaken, sincerely apologise, letting know, that did not want anything bad and it is a pity to you, that have distracted so dear people. Learn to speak "yes" and "is not present" beautifully, elegantly that at you have not taken offence also any your answer have accepted with visible pleasure.

To be able to answer unpleasant questions — the big art. Whether you paid attention that in the interviews taken from the same celebrated personality, often there are practically identical answers. Though interviewers different! Knowingly speak: the best impromptu — well prepared.

Never forget to thank, after all first of all it speaks about high level of culture. Often on work there are the situations compelling something to ask: before to leave or, on the contrary, to be late, raise the salary, to receive a lawful compensatory holiday, to translate in other change and so on. Sometimes refusal or approval directly depend on that form with which you will invest the request. Special attention turn on intonation — any roughness, familiarity, and furthermore impudence — only the request.

What to do, if you have invited to the important business reception, and you there know nobody and it is unique chance to get acquainted with the necessary people? Do not despair. To begin with try to be trained: get acquainted with somebody in the street. Choose, for example, in turn benevolent at first sight the person and begin conversation by a question «to you it not seems, what the turn does not move at all?» (Or something in this sort). Do not miss naturally arisen situation. Ask it about something or ask about the help. The main thing — do not give in, if to you will give up in dialogue. At everyone the problems and, probably, at present your elect to communicate is not intended.

On the important reception try to use not the general, and concrete questions as the first answer simple "yes" or "are not present", and the developed answer which will lead more to a close acquaintance is necessary. For example, whether «parties Like you?» — the general question, and «That you think of this party with which the company has arranged?. How to you performance of their president?» — concrete questions. Necessarily praise clothes or business accessories which have really liked you. So, acquaintance well-known in the world of business of partners has begun that on reception one has praised a gold pen of another.

Let's admit, you the fine expert, wish to be arranged for prestigious work, but are timid and комплексуете when communicate with the stranger. What to do, if you do not know how to overcome in yourselves this shyness? First, think up, as the scout, a truthful legend, that is the story about itself. Remember, how Жеглов with Sharapov took root into a gang Humpbacked? Think over to trifles answers to unpleasant questions of type «Why you have left, ostensibly at own will, from such known company as …» Secondly, speak the legend before a mirror, looking to yourselves in eyes. If still doubt — check up on relatives. Also dared in fight.

In the event that, despite all councils, you still cannot get rid of fear, think up calming phrase-talisman of type "You only die once" or «Two angels on each side, one over a head and all heavenly force with me». Also present — as unforgettable Dejl Carnegie learns, — that people in an audience owe you many money. You noticed, how fair fury and anger give forces? Somehow one unsociable, very closed little girl who and an eye never on adults lifted, having seen the hunter with the extracted game so him has shamed, that about it remembers all housing estate till now.

In most cases any work are relations "buy-sell". In general all of us in any measure buyers and sellers also it is known how to be important in this sphere sociable, to have many contacts, to be able to support them. We take a primitive variant — street trade. Whether touch you advertising barrackings of sellers? As a rule, no, but here one of them at times so clings, that as a result you buy absolutely unnecessary thing. How it turns out?

One woman told: somehow time it went in a train, on cars repeatedly passed коробейники with the plain goods. The voice of one of saleswomen differed from the others confidential intonation, it has stopped nearby with sets of crystal wine-glasses, glasses, wine glasses. And though this good quite sufficed the woman, and the saleswoman has been remarkable, not very well dressed by nothing, — it was difficult to come off the story. Before warmly, cordially and interestingly that spoke, as wine-glasses sing, glasses are turned and do not fall, it was necessary what to buy them.

Certainly, the seller should know well the goods, moreover, — really to appreciate it. So, experts of the certain company realising sets of ware by a method of direct sales (practically the same as коробейники), have noticed, that sets which like sellers, are on sale is better, than more beautiful or functional.

One more council — be able to leave a conflict situation adequately. Ask the angered buyer, that he particularly wants: if to change the goods — change, to receive the discount — give under a condition … and so on.

Find the sample for imitation. For example, it is pleasant to you, as your employee or the neigbour communicates with all. Look, as it goes, sets questions, answers. What to you prevents to behave as? Reveal the lacks and work over them. Ability to communicate similar on knowledge of a foreign language — without practice is easy for losing skill. So train constantly — make laugh the gloomy employee, note new in clothes of the secretary, tell a joke to the colleague. Or, despite employment, call old clients, communicate minutes five, tell, that you remember them, and that they the best.

Your problem — to learn to behave easy and раскованно, but at the same time to remain the modest person, to be able to communicate easily and accurately to express the thoughts. It will help to take the first step to success and to become practically in any collective bright individuality. Who does not know well-known expression Homo homini lupus est — "Dog eat dog"? Unfortunately, the statement it long since use in the truncated kind. Плавт to which attribute the given saying, added: «… if he does not know it». In your forces to get acquainted with associates you people, to make their friendly and sympathetic.