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Female career in man's business. Use the advantages

It is considered, as the man, and the woman start to build career approximately in equal conditions and chances of success at them identical. Why then in the higher echelons of power, among top-managers and heads of an average rank so there are not enough women? And those from our girlfriends who has broken, consider the advancement more likely as successful coincidence of circumstances, unexpected chance and are inclined to explain the success words: "So it has turned out"?. Perhaps women are less arrogant? Conclusions of psychologists speak about the return. The woman always searches the partner in life more cleverly, it is more successful, more talented - and it speaks about uncommon female inquiries.

Absolutely the another matter, that to the career the woman concerns a little differently, rather than the man. Career for the woman is first of all personal growth, possibility to be engaged in favourite business, self-realisation. Men understand prestigious and perspective posts as career.
In our society in general there was a belief, that for the present woman of an open-cast mine does not play a life of the big role. That for it the family, children, stability, a cosy life is more important. All it is really important, but not only for the woman, and and for the man too. It is not necessary to dismiss female ambitions. As, as we have found out, they surpass the man's. Though the majority of women consider, that no pleasure from successfully developed career will be compared to that happiness which mothers give small embracing handles.

But we will assume, that the woman has already got a family, children and the cosy house. What further? And further, on Маслоу, there is a question on self-realisation (read: to career). The woman leaves the arranged life on wide open spaces of business and gets in … the rigid man's world. The world where rivalry reigns, struggle, aggression; where, if not you eat, will eat you … Many of the women, got used to warm atmosphere of domesticity, are lost and refuse career. They occupy small performing posts which, as a rule, do not give possibility to be realised neither to creative potential, nor ambitions, do not bring satisfaction in the financial plan. Others, - accept the game rules created by men, and start to conduct with them fierce struggle for a place under the sun. They suffer from imposed by it conditions of business of stereotypes of behaviour, from an impact of man's logic and, combating man's methods, frequently do not consult.

Here we will raise the question: and whether it is necessary to accept these rules? And whether it is necessary to build career by man's ways? Whether it is necessary to the woman to operate as a real man in the man's world, to butt with men in "their" territory? At each lady the arsenal of receptions. Not without reason speak: force of the woman - in its weakness. After all the woman by the nature is arranged differently so also methods, strategy of achievement of the purposes at it should be and will absolutely others. First of all, it is necessary to be defined with the strong female parties and to use them for business dealing along with man's qualities. And even in a counterbalance the last. So, in what our advantage?

1. At women many fine qualities which on advantage will be estimated by the wise head: lability, fidelity, a constancy, discipline, honesty, patience, adaptability. Women are less inclined to risk, prefer sure versions. It in the man's world it is accepted to understand all from the first, and only the woman presumes to finish to itself the partner - time, once again, gently, tenderly, with a smile "плешь проесть"... The Logic does not work? Means, it is necessary to leave from logic - to translate conversation from intellectual space in emotional - and it is already female territory.

2. The women who have already become successful in business, admitted, that with achievement of career heights they were helped by such female qualities, as ability to work with people, diplomacy, ability to think over a detail. They said, that are obliged by success to the creative thinking, use of non-standard schemes and models. Capable to deep empathy, the woman much understands without words, at level of emotions, with ease puts itself to the place of the clients, patients, buyers and successfully uses it.

3. One more conclusive advantage of the woman in the world of man's business: it is eloquent and capable to convince the interlocutor in everything. I will underline especially - in everything. If it needs to convince you that from the sky the rain falls not, and flowers, at it it will turn out. The influence complete set will go to a course - all arguments, manners, external appeal and power. Any woman will give odds to any man in persuasiveness and - will win, if wants, without special efforts. Why? Yes it is simple because the man does not have resource of influence by appearance, and specificity of cast in a household life promotes that girls from the earliest age carry out homework - sew, erase, prepare - develop a motility, and together with it and... Eloquence.

4. There is a factor about which psychologists since Freud's times well know. The matter is that the man initially is not ready to compete to the woman, he a priori recognises behind it of more possibilities, than behind itself(himself) (it after all can do that it under no circumstances to make is not capable - to give birth). There are purely female spheres of a life where to the man of access is not present. Business of the man consider primordially as "the territory" and to suppose there the woman do not want. After all it can consult!.

Let's give an example. Whether there are in Ukraine the men-politicians possessing the same intellectual qualities whom Julia Timoshenko possesses? Certainly, is! But they are men, and it causes their notorious defeat in competition with Julia Timoshenko in man's community. Neither will power, nor purposefulness, logicality do not guarantee it a recognition and admiration. For them it is norm. And for the woman is an ideal tooling in acquisition of all kinds of influence. The woman with such "a gentlemen's set" is perceived almost as the superperson. Men in relation to it - are aggressive. So they express the fear before the contender. While you do not threaten their well-being, they with you will be kind, but as soon as will feel your force - will try to pound in a powder.

5. Want that man or not, but they should reckon with that the woman - the serious opponent. At least already because in our conditions it should apply twice more efforts to occupy equal position with the man. It should be on a head above partners-men to have the right to be with them on equal: different starting conditions, other "the weight category", necessity constantly to prove the professionalism, psychological unavailability of men to perceive it as equal partner. And if the woman with all it consults is speaks about what huge potential at women. It is possible to regret only the man who is not perceiving seriously the employees. He risks during one fine instant to find out, that "that очкастая the foolish woman" became its boss.

6. It would Seem, all trumps on hands at men: a pragmatism, logic, sequence, rigidity, ability to hold blow, coolly to analyze a situation, to incur responsibility (and the unwillingness to share it) etc. But the clever woman will not make the big work to achieve the. Many business ladies prefer to work with men on that simple basis, that the man's logic (yes will forgive me of the man) easily miscalculates. The man will answer aggression with aggression, it does not have right to recede - and in it its weakness: it becomes less "maneuverable" so it is easier for "torpedoing". Men always are measured by something - force, mind, ambitions...
Women always have a possibility to behave flexibly: to make a step aside and even back - to admit own weakness and by that to disarm the partner. They adapt in any situation - thanks to the natural intuition, ability to build personal relations faster. During any moment it is possible to smile, in any - погрустнеть, to lead itself so that to the partner it became inconvenient to give up and once again to return to question discussion.

7. If you the business woman, that, entering into mutual relations with men, easily pass from man's style of behaviour to female and back. It is very correct way for the woman who has decided to affirm in traditionally man's field. Because when the woman absolutely assimilates with the man, its contenders easily beat it. And here when the woman passes in an intuitively-emotional zone - they are lost. Female energy of a life as at a cat who lives nine lives, at any stage becomes our support. It seems - here a bottom, and under it - one more, and - one more... The Woman intuitively understands, that behind edge - there is something else. "Something" it is possible to name it somehow: collective unconscious, experience of last lives of all wise women, - but it is really transferred.

8. Practice shows, that frequently women are much more successful than men even in those trades which traditionally were considered as the man's. For example, women - fine сэйлзы and analysts. It is necessary to recognise also, for example, and that our women more formed. It speaks that 18-year-old students socially more mature and with большей responsibility approach to development of a theoretical material in high schools, rather than their coevals which in the moral plan still absolutely children.

9. On supervision рекрутеров, women-competitors win outwardly - they more well-groomed, are able to submit itself, as a rule, well speak. The well-groomed man, by the way, for some reason causes suspicion. Recently became popular so-called "stress-interview" - check of the potential worker on a conflictness, ability to work in stressful situations, reaction to non-standard problems. The woman there and then becomes silent, when it check on a conflictness, and the man (if it, of course, is not prepared for interview) on a conflictness is usually caught.

10. When the woman speaks: "This person does not inspire me trust" - it appears the rights. And the intuition to which are not inclined to trust the man, here does not play any role. Simply women react to sights three times faster, than men. And a sign language perceive much more operatively. About it speak results of research of speed of nonverbal dialogue between people of the opposite sex spent at the Cologne university.
The three tenth second suffices the woman on the average to react to partner movement, for this purpose it is required to the man of more second. Simply speaking, women read out the nonverbal information from the interlocutor earlier, rather than he will have time to say "Здрасьте".

11. Corporation Intel research also testifies in favour of women. It appears, women in большей degrees are inclined to the decision of several problems simultaneously. And a modern rhythm of a life more than when that was, demands "многозадачности", and in this situation women appear leaders. Their recognised ability is better to be guided in several simultaneously solved problems gives all of them большее competitive advantage before men who feel is much better, carrying out in each moment of time one problem.

12. And this argument in favour of women-heads. Women possess effective, but not repressive abilities to influence, therefore they manage to supervise not suppressing, that is very important for fuller disclosing of creative potential of subordinates, their loyalty to performance of the work and self-motivation. The woman does not adapt to a man's management style, and creatively uses a nonconventional management style, "humane and impressing management": ability to be attractive to other people to achieve their liking and love.

13. Within decades an ability criterion to perform this or that work intellectual factor I.Q served. Usually this indicator above at men, than at women. Last years, however I.Q. Gives way E.Q. - to emotional factor. One intelligence as scientists have proved, a little, successfully to move ahead on service. Psychologists assert, that more often problems on work are connected not with professional incompetence, and with emotional immaturity.
Results of researches say that depends on emotional intelligence креативность the person. E.Q. Becomes a key to success in this century. The intuition, softness, charm, sincerity, an openness, empathy, patience, a step will be the main values. Familiar qualities? Also notice - purely female. And it means, that the future - for the woman.

At last we will tell, that to the woman, decided to make to myself a name and career in our country, nevertheless it is necessary to break stereotypes, to master another's - man's territory and to search for common language with "local natives". And to prove the right to partnership it is necessary nevertheless those methods which are accepted in their tribe. To use purely female receptions of influence at this stage it is necessary with the big care: men should not feel threat to the well-being. You - "the guy", are no more. Many business women specially study practical psychology, perfect skill of negotiations. It, unlike men, it is impossible to suppose "having pierced".
Has proved, that you are a woman with man's mentality, have won respect, trust - is excellent! And further... It is possible to use the gender advantages further. And them at the woman as we were convinced, much …